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How do you create a business & life of your dreams?
How do you alchemise the resistance? The gap of where you are and where you want to be?
Far out – these are huge questions, but if you’re asking them.. then you are on the path to discovery.
No doubt you’re here because something pulled you to be. Did you read my post on Social media and feel a deep urge to follow the breadcrumbs?
I’ve got to tell you this now.
You’re not going to find the answer here.
You will only find the answer within yourself… all I do is ask you the questions and show you how I personally do it for myself.
To alchemise the resistance to change, growth & becoming, you need to take the responsibility and do the work.
As we move into the deep, intense & transformative Scorpio Full moon, now is the time to dive deep and alchemise the shit you don’t need into your strength and wisdom.
This will lead you to your purpose & alignment to your highest vision.
;;Why is it so hard?
Through our life, right from when we are little souls and our limbic brain is developing, we start creating subsconscious patterns of emotional response. The limbic brain is driven purely from pleasure and pain and the language it speaks is fear or peace and it feeds off emotion. The stronger the emotion the more it triggers a particular response.
This is why our stories sometimes don’t make sense to others. This is why we see ourselves in a completely different way than other people view us. We have created emotional responses to situations, even if they don’t “make sense” and then subconsciously act on those emotional responses.
So when we are taught:
👉 to live life in a linear existence and ignore our cyclic urges;
👉to honour the masculine as hero & the feminine as weak;
👉to follow rather than lead or think for ourselves;
👉That expressing ourselves is bad, but being “brave” and holding it in is good for acceptable behaviour;
👉Be confident but not too confident that you’ll make other people feel uncomfortable.
and… yada yada yada (there are a million stories out there that we have been taught to believe)
We have created a subconscious neurological patterns driven by pure emotion.
To “think” our way out of our stories & beliefs is a waste of time. The way in is feeling the emotion.
So even though we might be doing the cerebral work with affirmations and positive mindset, we aren’t doing all the work to truly tap into the highest vision of ourSelf. It’s a great start – but it’s only a piece of the puzzle.
So when you KNOW there is resistance in your life. And you know that there is a version of yourSelf that you can’t quite reach what do you do?
You start by being curious.
👉Curious of your behaviour
👉Curious of your emotions
👉Curious of the way life unfolds in front of you
👉Curious of the thoughts that run through your head.
When you start being humble and just watching with curiosity, you start to separate the stories from yourSelf.
There are so many ways into alchemising resistance, including practicing Gratitude, Active Visualisation & embodied movement, but today I want to share some journal prompts to get you FEELING into the life/person/situation you want to invite in your reality.
Get your journal out and take a nice deep breath in and let out a forceful exhalation to release tension and get you into a space of receptivity. As you are writing, get deeply into the emotion of it all.. don’t be scared off by “bad” emotion – you are obviously releasing something from your subconscious.
Let the energy of the Scorpio full moon help you illuminate your deep inner world.
Get curious and now ask yourSelf:
- What pathway in my many possible realities am I currently following? How does it serve me and is it for my highest good?
- What choices am I making that hinders me from being the highest version of mySelf?
- If I was to follow down the pathway to my highest version of mySelf, what does the string/pathway look like?
- How are you going to be the controller of your approach to life and make shit happen with ease?
- How are you going to end overwhelm and stress and become balanced, productive regardless of time.
I hope this starts you the journey of alchemising your resistance to change.
Do these exercises with humbled curiousity – without judgement and see what arises.
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What comes to you when you read this title? Are you a little uncomfortable? Are you intrigued? Do you want to keep reading or feel a little put off?
I’m talking about embodiment here beautiful, and manifesting some fucking amazing shit in your life just by balancing the endless to-do lists and action with being in a state of pleasure and truly feeling desire and opening yourself up to receiving.
We’re in a yummy phase in the moon right now and intuitively I feel it’s a great time start attuning yourself to pleasure in every single way. We’re in 3rd quarter Scorpio which is a very sexy sign.. and a time to acknowledge yourself, your efforts and get yourself into a receiving state.
After I had my girls and being in a giving state for many years (without any self care), I remember trying to think about a desire and feeling it and being surprised that I didn’t feel anything, I was numb. I was always such a passionate, exuberant & sensual woman up until my 30’s – I was quite a powerful manifester and my life was a living dream, but ego got control, then shame and taboos held back my sexuality (long story) and then kids came and VOILA, I became numb to any of my pleasurable feelings. And yes this includes my sexuality and libido. It has been a long journey to get back into my body and start to feel ALL the feels I had lost over the years.
So I ask you… how are you FEELING beautiful? I mean, how are you truly feeling?? Can you deeply feel the swell of emotion (good or bad) coming through you now as I ask that?
If you don’t, then I’m going to give you some tips that I have done to get back into my pleasure state.
1. It starts with self care
I’m pretty sure you’ve seen quotes and heard this and it’s like blah blah blah all over Instagram. But seriously honey, you are NOT going to get into a pleasure state without giving back to yourself. If you feel guilt about giving yourself time, then I suggest you see a holistic psychologist or kinesiologist to work through what is going on in your sub-conscious. If you’re not used to it or feel as if you don’t have time, then a 5 minute cup of tea in silence, a beautiful shower or a short journalling sesh just before you sleep. Anything that fills your bucket. You’ve heard this analogy because is freaking true – you cant give from an empty bucket.
2. Do something that makes you feel good everyday
What makes you feel good? Putting on makeup and getting out of those trackies into something nice? Or is it not dressing up and being comfortable and wearing trackies? Do you want to dance? Do some yoga, play with your kids, paint, sing, go for a walk in the sunshine, garden, go to the beach, have a cuppa with a friend? Do something that brings you joy everyday. Real joy. Soon you’ll start to feel that excitement come back – bit by bit. Remember that no one can give you this time – you need to take it.
I love dancing and singing. When I dance – I could do it for hours and hours and same with singing… if I have a tension headache I belt out a couple of tunes and it seriously disappears. Grounding in a beautiful rock pool or the beach is pretty special too…
3. Pleasure yoself woman!
Okay – so this is where the sex magick comes in and this was my light bulb moment and one that filled in ALL the gaps. As women we are sensual creatures but weighed down with patriarchal belief systems that our sexuality is dangerous and dirty. I mean – there is a reason these beliefs were put into place thousands of years ago and it is because our sexuality was recognised as powerful and the masculine powers that be didn’t want to feel responsible for their own feelings of lust or unworthiness. It is our super power and used in the right way can open the doorway to some magickal shit.
In my 20’s I was a magnetic, sensual woman, I consciously manifested so much, because I was always in a pleasure state and could feel deep desire, but I was out of balance spiritually. By the time I was in my early 30’s I felt so much shame and pushed it all away in order to become “spiritual”. Then I had kids and gave myself away even more for another 7 years. What do you think happened to my pleasure state? Zip, nada, numb, resentful. Sound familiar Mamas?
The root chakra & earth star connects us to the earth and materialises our desires. Focussing on this energy centre will activate it and get you feeling sensual and in a receiving state. So what do you do to start feeling “down there”? This has a direct effect on us feeling pleasure in all areas of our life.
(Disclaimer – if you have sexual trauma please do this with guidance from a trained health professional used to treating and assisting in this kind of trauma. You can bring up some heavy stuff if you’re not careful. I have moderate shame around my sexuality and have experienced rape, but everyone is different so please do this ONLY if you feel comfortable with the feelings that arise)
Here’s a few ways to activate your root chakra (a non exhaustable list):
- Breathe. Sit somewhere quiet and private. Close your eyes and focus on the root chakra which is located around the perenium. Take a deep breath and send that breath to the root chakra. Hold your breath for a little in that same area, and then release. Do this a few times, then take long sweeping breathes into the root chakra. Even imagine what you desire while doing this. You’ll definitely feel it. Warning… you might get extremely turned on and I’ve had a friend who has orgasmed doing this. A pretty great side effect!
- Go into a private room and put on some tribal beats or R n B and bend your legs and start swaying your hips. Feel your body, your curves, crevices and pleasure zones. Close your eyes so you can really FEEL the energy swirling as you unlock the tightness in your hips. You might actually feel turned on.. this is good. Your root chakra is activating. You might even check yourself out afterwards while passing a mirror you’ll feel so good.
- Pleasure yourself. If you’re not used to touching yourself, or have some deep seated sexual trauma, you may want to do this with guidance from your psychologist and start really really slow. Remember – all the shame belief systems has come from a patriarchal world view and to embody the divine feminine, we need to start dismantling that belief system within ourselves. Start by loving yourself and activities that I mentioned before and only go here when you feel ready. Touch yourself, masturbate (there I said it), get a vibrator. Use your breath and take deep breathes in your yoni space while you’re doing it. I swear it, it’s fucking amazing and I love to end my day with this. It’s relaxing, my mind stops chattering and I fall asleep so easily. I had to find pleasure in myself again before I could feel open to receiving from my partner. But now I do, I’m happy to feel my own sensuality and invite my partner in.
- Give yourself an aromatic massage or ask your caring partner to do it with you. Get your oils (I use doTERRA) – Jasmine is amazing for sexual purity and cinnamon & ylang ylang are beautiful oils for this use. Dilute them in oil and massage yourself all over your body while taking deep breaths and allowing yourself to love all parts of you. Being in receiving mode is a powerful self love activity.
I have an interesting story of when I was younger, I used to be so scared to go to sleep. Fear of everything that could go wrong in my life (usually death and dying) went through my mind and I couldn’t fall asleep. Fear is the negative aspect of the root chakra. Intuitively, I found that by pleasuring myself, all my fears and anxieties melted away and I could fall asleep easily afterward. I always felt shameful of this because we are inherently taught that masturbating is something that we shouldn’t do, but what I was actually doing was using my intuition and self guidance to balance the fear and bring pleasure into being.
It’s so nice to activate your sensual state, but be warned, over doing it can lead to over energy in the region. Balance it by meditation and higher chakra exercises and bring yourself spiritual pleasure as well.
Manifestation comes from the ether and into the material. If we want to consciously create our life, then we must be the receiving vessel in perfect vibration with our desires, and balance our energies accordingly.
My darlings.. I hope this was insightful for you and I urge you to practice this at home, in your own safety.
If you want to come and explore YOU further, A Divine Feminine Afternoon retreat will be held with Pleasure, Pain & Sex Magick being the topic at the end of February (date to be advised). Please let me know if you would like to come and be a part of the circle.
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Not to be confused with stage “magic.” Magick is art of utilizing natural forces around us to bring about change. Magick is neutral, neither good, nor evil. The practitioner decides how they would like to focus this natural energy. Magick is a powerful tool that you can use to bring about positive changes in your life.
from the Urban Dictionary
So many times I have been in discussion with my web & branding clients about “how” to get clarity on their vision and how to get it online in a cohesive way. I have one way of getting clarity (for a air/fire astrologically I really really need it) and it is journalling, music & oils. When all three go together it creates powerful magick which will then spill out into your life and of course business.
I’ve had this journal (in the pic) since 2006. This one is so special to me.. it holds my hopes and dreams from pre-kids and its amazing to see how far I’ve come or what has stayed the same since then. From the age of 23 I journalled constantly, earlier in the form of poetry and later in the form of “talking” to my higher self. But after I became a Mum in 2011 I stopped journalling so much because I was well… otherwise preoccupied.
Fast forward to 2016, I found the need to urgently put my mind down on paper. The brain to hand outlet really helped with feelings of anxiety and confusion I was experiencing and seeing those words on paper gave me perspective. This kind of journalling was more of a brain dump which was helpful, but about 2 years ago my focus changed and I became laser focussed on being grateful and writing as the person I desired to feel like rather than how I was feeling at that time. Don’t get me wrong – brain dumping is completely valid and a great release, but if you want to create magick, we have to change some brain wiring here babes. Writing in future tense holds a lot of power. What this does is that starts creating the feeling that you want to embody. Your outer reality reflects your inner reality, so in changing your inner reality, it is only natural that your outer reality starts following suit.
As a web designer/branding coach whose main focus is to have their clients shine their true authentic self online, I have long discussions with my clients on how to really step into the most powerful & authentic version of themselves. This is probably the single most important step in the journey to going online and your branding. Leave this out and the rest of the process is confusing and daunting.
What I want to give you today is some steps to gain clarity in going online and to manifest magic in your business. This goes across the board – your website, social media, your logo, colours, copy – all of it. and some steps to take to begin stepping into that.
Firstly I want to set the scene.. put your favourite chill album on Spotify (the link is in my Instagram highlights) and get out your oils to anchor in those emotions so you can use them again & again to invoke those same emotions during the day. Aroma and music is powerful for brain wiring and my non-negotiable sacred tool.
Also another tip: Try not to use the word “want” in your journalling. In order to manifest your vision you need to embody that vision first. In saying “want” you are stating to the universe that you don’t have it yet or you are lacking. You attract your inner reality.
Imagine yourself feeling how you would like to feel in your life & in your biz.
This is related to your business because without feeling amazing in your life, how are you going to create an awesome, joyful, abundant business? You may make a lot of money, but may burn out, be unhappy or resentful for the amount of time you put in. Imagine it, feel it, write it out. Write it like those feelings are already. You might not feel it or believe it straight away, but like any habit it takes time for those neural transmitters to make new pathways. Keep at it.
Describe who you serve and who your idea client is.
Without knowing this, you will stay confused and not know what to offer. Being crystal clear on who you are serving is a must in your authentic online branding.
Did you know that your ideal client/audience is already there waiting for you to gain clarity. Write down who you serve, what their hopes and dreams are and why you enjoy working with them (important – describe the feeling of it).
Now write down your ideal day (in your life & business) and your offerings to those freakin awesome clients of yours.
Here’s a shortened example. You can write it in past tense like it’s already happened, or in future tense like it’s going to happen – embodying the energy is the most important here:
I am soooo grateful that I wake up before the kids, full of energy to meditate and journal. I have a cup of tea, spend time with my girls and get them ready for school and then dive into branding my beautiful client and creating a custom website for them. I then organise a Divine Feminine womens’ retreat afternoon which I’m so blessed that 10 women have already said yes to themselves and will join us. My oils business keeps growing without pushing and eternally grateful that doTERRA has come into my life. My day is so relaxed and joyful and money flows to me effortlessly. I love cooking with my girls and we have an abundant organic home cooked meal that nourishes my body. I fall asleep easily listening to a meditation – I am content.
Don’t worry about all different scenarios.. just focus on one. It’s the feeling you would like to invoke not necessarily the unfolding of events.
Thank yourself for standing in your own power.
Write and state – “So it is”, or, “It is done”. Take a deep breath (I like to use my oils here) and bring that feeling into each of your cells so that they vibrate with that energy. You are creating magick.
What you need to do from here is start embodying your vision. How would you act, be or feel when you have your successful offerings into this world and online? And also to release any attachment. This is the biggie. Attachment means lack. To stand in your power, you must have no attachment because you just KNOW that it’s happening.
We have many many realities available to us all at once, it is only where we lay our attention that reflects the current reality we are in. So if you desire to manifest the vision you have been inspired to create, then start embodying that person you see yourself as.
I truly hope this helps you start your magickal online journey.
With love, flow & clarity
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